Flex Your Mental-Strength-Muscles Using These 3 Leadership Tactics

Flex Your Mental-Strength-Muscles Using These 3 Leadership Tactics

 

“I tried to do so many things to fit in. But when you look in the mirror, that’s the one person you can’t lie to.” – David Goggins 

April 13, 2013 at 2:49PM, two bombs exploded, killing three people and injuring hundreds of others. The Boston Marathon, the quintessential 26.2 mile race, an event that symbolizes patriotism and honor, was attacked by two assailants. Simply put, they sought to terrorize and destroy. Soon after the horrific bombing, the message Boston Strong was plastered everywhere. It quickly became a source of strength for many. This single symbol of solidarity gave people the mental strength to push forward. In times of need, it isn’t the physical aspects of ourselves and others that we need to be tough but rather the mental toughness that allows us to endure.

In all facets of life–sports, work, friendships, heroes–we tend to admire people who possess superior physical strength. Marvel characters like Thor and Wonder Woman impress us with their size and power, but the reality is that mental strength is much more important in our day-to-day lives. As we think about the toughest times in history, the individuals who emerge demonstrated true grit and mental vigor. Whether we look to Mother Theresa or Winston Churchill, the greatest leaders throughout history are the ones who maintained mental strength over physical prowess. Granted, physical health is important, it certainly sells at the box office, and most of work for a toner physique, but our accustomed manner in which we go looking for strength by way of seeing muscles is deceiving.

Mental muscles aren’t available for the eye. Mental strength is all about training the mind, putting in the psychological reps, so that we can find the courage to continue in even the greatest of hardships and difficult scenarios. It’s what leaders lean on when everyone else seems to be falling apart or coming unraveled.

If you’re reading this–especially now–it’s because you want to lead better and grow faster. Embrace the formula below to flex your mental-strength-muscles.

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The Ability to Stay Positive

Staying positive during a crisis, or even through daily trials, is tough. Our emotions can easily be hijacked by worry and fear. These feelings grow as uncertainty about the future looms. One powerful way to stay positive is to imagine or visualize your best self. We know that the seasons of life will pass, looking optimistically towards the future is a proven way to remain hopeful and anticipate a better day.

Fighting Against the Alternative 

So often it seems that we are simply “wired” to be pessimistic. Negative feelings and worst case scenarios come naturally. Our human nature is one of protection, and in many situations this benefits us. The hurdle we face is how to use the information we receive to put us in a position to protect ourselves and others rather than consuming our thoughts and paralyzing our actions.

 

The Capacity to be Rational

Mentally strong individuals possess similar qualities that help them wade through some of the most trying and difficult circumstances. They learn to give up or let go of defeating behaviors and attitudes that aren’t productive.They remove “the bad habits” associated with brooding, worry, and doubt by thinking rationally about the reality of the moment. The key, says expert Dr. Amy Cooper Hakim, is to remove emotions, especially negative emotions.

Fighting Against the Alternative

Being rational, essentially taking out the emotion, is no easy feat. Admittedly, sometimes it feels good to wallow and embrace the darkness. Dare we say that it even may provide some degree of comfort, since the pain is very real. This approach, though, in the long run, doesn’t provide the relief and comfort we naturally seek. We need to discipline ourselves to take the necessary steps to remain in control of how we respond to situations regardless of the circumstance.

 

The Commitment to Remain Focused

Mental toughness requires commitment and resilience. This may seem counterintuitive. One would think that in order to stay focused and committed you need mental toughness, but it’s the other way around. You need to focus on mental strength to actually have it when you need it. That’s the unique quality of mentally strong leaders; they practice being strong so that they can retrieve their highest levels when called upon. This requires nothing less than a conscientious and deliberate effort.

Fighting Against the Alternative

Losing sight of our goals and long term plans can easily occur when the daily grind seems insurmountable. We take our eyes off of the prize and the little things consume our thoughts and then dictate our behaviors. As Stephen Covey clearly articulated, we need to fight against what seems urgent to focus on the important stuff. If we don’t stay focused on the big picture, we never have the reserves needed to see a brighter future.

Great leaders are always fighting for their ability to stay positive, be rational, and remain focused. And, they know that the best way to do that is to simply avoid the alternative, which is our natural tendency. What we know is that leadership is paradoxical in that we often have to do the opposite of what our intuition tells us.

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#5thSunday: Courage for Every Leader

#5thSunday: Courage for Every Leader

Every month at TheSchoolHouse302, you get a blog post with a leadership development model, a podcast with a leading expert, a “read this” with three book selections, and a review and reflection tool–all on a particular topic of leadership to help you lead better and grow faster. Posts are always blasted out on Sundays so that leaders can think and prepare for the week ahead. In months when we have 5 Sundays or 5 weeks to post, we also provide an infographic to help visualize and solidify the concept. This month, as we end our series on courageous leadership, we want to reflect on several powerful concepts to fuel your courage as a leader. Enjoy. Courageous_Leadership_InfoGraphic_ As always, please like, follow, and comment. If you have topics of interest, guests you want us to interview, or books that we should read and recommend, please let us know that as well. Joe & T.J.
#reviewandreflect: 4 Key Strategies to Becoming A Courageous Leader

#reviewandreflect: 4 Key Strategies to Becoming A Courageous Leader

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. ~ Winston Churchill

Courage1 This is TheSchoolHouse302’s monthly #review&reflect, wrapping up our focus on Courage. Our review and reflect series offers readers the opportunity to take a deep dive into our leadership content by taking time to reflect and identify the skills you need, to explore how you can learn those skills, and to connect with industry leaders to follow to gain greater expertise. Skills I need…

Courage is the characteristic that initiates and sustains action. ~ TheSchoolHouse302

Courage is doing things in the face of fear and fighting the desire to withdraw, hold back, or disengage. The courage we demonstrate often comes in the form of a gut-check that tests our fortitude. The goal is for you to constantly pursue what you set your mind to accomplish, despite the highs and lows and the good and the bad. To stay the course, courage is necessary for you navigate the difficult times and push forward. Just as resilience helps us to bounce back after a tough patch, courage inspires us to stay strong when our fear can overwhelm us and our protective part of the brain tells us to give up.

The crazy thing about courage is that it is not a static quality that consistently resides within us. The reality is that it can wane if we don’t use it often. To have the resolve to muster up your courage and develop your courageous muscles, we offer our four-part model:

Courageous Leader Model

Review: There is a great quote in the original Point Break blockbuster film in which Bodhi says, “fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true.” Despite this character being a bank robber, which we don’t advocate in any way, there is real wisdom in his words. Our fears can reduce us to inaction, which is why our Courageous Leadership Model is grounded in 4 key actions that a leader needs to take to move forward.

  1. Gain Clarity–Courageous leaders identify the problem, challenge, or situation that they need to face head-on.
  2. Take Small Steps–Courage is not a single large act, but more so the culmination of small courageous decisions that present themselves as a singular courageous move.
  3. Assume Responsibility–Courageous leaders take ownership of issues that need to be solved.
  4. Take Calculated Risks–Courageous leaders weigh the evidence to push forward in a measured, courageous fashion.

Reflect:

Having and displaying courage can be exhibited powerfully in a variety of circumstances. We often believe that qualities such as courage, faith, and grit are innate, but in reality they all require focus, deep commitment, and constant attention. Of the four areas of our model, with which one are you most comfortable? And, with which one are you least comfortable?

Courage Diagram How do I learn to be a more courageous leader…

Learning to be courageous requires practice and reflection on the past to identify areas where you can improve. One way that this is achieved is through gaining the mental clarity needed in challenging yourself to see where you can fill in your own leadership gaps and courageously look at yourself to discover your own weaknesses.

You can discover more about yourself by reading powerful and insightful books that challenge your thinking and stretch you to improve.

What should I read to strengthen my ability to be a more courageous leader?

Review: In our #readthisseries we featured books that highlight real people who we can emulate and real wisdom for the courage we need to succeed as leaders.

Cage-busting leadership by Frederick Hess

Leaders eat last: Why some teams pull together and others don’t by Simon Sinek

#AskGaryVee: One entrepreneur’s take on leadership, social media, and self-awareness by Gary Vaynerchuk

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You can’t miss our #readthisseries on 3 books you need to read for stronger courage.

Self Assessment:

Leadership is difficult and self-leadership is also incredibly challenging. Our path is often obstructed by issues, mistakes, fear, doubt, and, at times, a lot of critics. Great leaders realize that courage is a quality that we need to develop and nurture. Based on the assessment below, and using a 5-point scale, 1 being ineffective and 5 being highly effective, rate yourself in the areas of the four-part model.

Courage_Assessment

Based on the model, what do you need to develop further?

Who should I follow…

What does an expert have to say about courage and bravery? Kimberly Davis effectively breaks down the power of authenticity and how leaders develop trust.

Review: For our #onethingseries, we interviewed Kimberly Davis.

Action: An expert on authentic leadership, Kimberly Davis shares her inspirational message of personal power, responsibility, and impact with organizations across the country and teaches leadership programs world-wide, most notably, through her program “OnStage Leadership,” which runs in New York and Dallas.

Kimberly is a TEDxspeaker and her new book, Brave Leadership: Unleash Your Most Confident, Authentic, and Powerful Self to Get the Results You Need, has been named as the number one book to read by Inc. Magazine’s “The 12 Most Impactful Books to Read in 2018.”

Listen to the entire podcast on iTunes, One Thing Series, and please rate and like (it helps).

That’s our #review&reflect for Courage. Take a look back to take a step forward. TheSchoolHouse302 is about getting to simple and maximizing effective research-based strategies that empower individuals to lead better and grow faster. Please let us know how our leadership posts are working for you, what you are reading to improve yourself, and your thoughts on leadership and growth here on our blog and Twitter. Follow our #onethingseries podcast on iTunes and our #readthisseries on YouTube. Joe & T.J.  
#readthisseries: 3 Books You Need to Read to be a More Courageous Leader

#readthisseries: 3 Books You Need to Read to be a More Courageous Leader

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Don’t miss this vblog on books you need to read to lead better and grow faster. We recommend three titles that are must-reads on the topic of courage. You can find our catalog of great leadership books at dereka206.sg-host.com — click on #readthisseries.

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Hess, F.M. (2013). Cage-busting leadership. Cambridge, MA: Harvard Education Press.

Sinek, S. (2014). Leaders eat last: Why some teams pull together and others don’t. New York: Penguin.

Vaynerchuk, G. (2016). #AskGaryVee: One entrepreneur’s take on leadership, social media, and self-awareness. New York: HarperCollins Publishers.

Don’t miss your chance to win this month’s give-away by tweeting to us using #readthisseries. The directions are in the video. We can’t wait to hear from you.

As always, please like, follow, and comment. If you have books that we should read and recommend, please let us know that as well.

Joe & T.J.

#onethingseries: Brave Leadership w/ Kimberly Davis, @OnStageKimberly

#onethingseries: Brave Leadership w/ Kimberly Davis, @OnStageKimberly

 

An expert on authentic leadership, Kimberly Davis shares her inspirational message of personal power, responsibility, and impact with organizations across the country and teaches leadership programs world-wide, most notably, through her program “OnStage Leadership,” which runs in New York and Dallas. Additionally, Kimberly teaches Authentic Influence and Executive Presence for Southern Methodist University’s (SMU) Cox School of Business’ Executive Education Program, and partners with SMU in teaching for the Bush Institute’s Women’s Initiative Fellowship program (empowering female leaders from the middle east) and for the National Hispanic Corporate Council.

Kimberly is a TEDxspeaker and her new book, Brave Leadership: Unleash Your Most Confident, Authentic, and Powerful Self to Get the Results You Need, has been named as the number one book to read by Inc. Magazine’s “The 12 Most Impactful Books to Read in 2018.” With a cover-endorsement by best-selling author Daniel Pink, Brave Leadership is a must read for every leader.

Her interview with TheSchoolHouse302 was insightful and brought light to the power in being courageous as well as authentic as a leader.

TheSchoolHouse302 · One Thing Series: Brave Leadership w/ Kimberly Davis, @OnStageKimberly

  • Find out how she defines “authenticity” within the framework of leadership and influence. She follows the work of Bill George.
  • She’s affirmed by the work of Dan Pink, especially the book Drive. Check out When as well.
  • Listen to what she says about touching base with your “super-objective” and centering yourself throughout the day.
  • She wants to learn to speak Spanish, find out how she plans to make that happen.
  • For growth, she surrounds herself with a network. Listen to why that’s so important.
  • You can’t miss how she opens up to believing in herself.

This interview with Kimberly Davis is packed with leadership lessons and sage advice for any leader who craves the tools and tactics necessary to be brave and authentic at the same time.

Please follow, like, and comment. Use #onethingseries and #SH302 so that we can find you.

Joe & T.J.

 

 

#SH302: 4 Key Strategies to becoming a Courageous Leader

#SH302: 4 Key Strategies to becoming a Courageous Leader

Courage

All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination. ~ Earl Nightingale

Everyone has faced a moment where they’ve had to demonstrate courage–doing something unpopular, pushing forward through adversity, or confronting a negative situation. Courage is doing those things in the face of fear and fighting the desire to withdraw, hold back, or disengage. The courage we demonstrate often comes in the form of a gut-check that tests our fortitude to make a difference when we’re called upon.

Throughout May, we focused on the power of resilience and and we follow up in June as we take a deep look at what is often considered the most important leadership characteristic of all–courage. Pearse (2017) says that “without courage you can’t make a difference. Without courage you can’t have the right conversations that lead to change. Without courage you won’t even get off the starting block as a leader.” This quote resonates with us because it’s simple yet true. Whatever you set your mind to accomplish, courage is the primary characteristic that will help you navigate the difficult times to push forward. Just as resilience helps us to bounce back after a tough patch, courage inspires us to stay strong when our brains tell us to give up.

Courage is the catalyst for the athlete to chase her dreams, for the CEO to build an incredible company, or for the school teacher to stand up as an advocate for marginalized groups of students. In 2012, Girls Who Code was born from the courageous idea in closing the gender gap that exists within the field of computer science. Reshman Saujani, founder and CEO, had the courage to “change the image of what a programmer looks like and does.” Through their intense summer immersion program and other avenues “Girls Who Code has reached 185,000 girls…and 100 million people through its campaigns, advocacy work, and 13-book New York Times best-selling series (GirlsWhoCode, 2018).

Courage comes in many forms and in different shapes and sizes. We often think of courage as we face massive undertakings, like changing the face of computer science around the world, but, in reality, courage is a virtue that anyone can exercise on a daily basis. And, developing your own courage muscles simply takes deliberate practice. We provide the key strategies highlighted within our Courageous Leader Model as follows:

Courageous Leader Model

#1: Gain Clarity–Identify the problem, challenge, or situation that you need to face head-on. The first step in being courageous is in limiting distractions, including the ways we procrastinate when we know a challenge is looming. Jast, author of Laser-Sharp Focus, posits that too much of our energy is spent concentrating on the wrong problems (2016). It’s only when we can gain clarity by targeting the critical issues at hand that we will truly be productive, courageously tackling real issues rather than all of the superfluous aspects of life and work.

#2: Take Small Steps–Courage is not a single large act, but more so the culmination of small courageous decisions that present themselves as a singular courageous move. “When we think about progress, we often imagine how good it feels to achieve a long-term goal or experience a major breakthrough. These big wins are great–but they are relatively rare” (Amabile & Kramer, 2011). The point is that huge courageous endeavors are mostly mythical. Courage starts with taking the first step toward a scary goal. Each small win makes for a giant leap into something you never thought possible. For this reason, great leaders learn to break down big goals into each of the mile markers that signify progress along the way.

#3: Assume Responsibility–Courageous leaders take ownership of issues that need to be solved. Don’t wait for others to solve problems, but, rather, garner support and collaborate with the people who can help find solutions. For the ultimate guide on dedication and bravery, we turn to Extreme Ownership by Willink and Babin (2017). Courageous leaders never avoid responsibility. In fact, they inspire trust by assuming the burden of their duty whenever possible. When leaders care about and protect their people, the team will consistently put themselves in harm’s way. Conversely, leaders who protect themselves and restrain themselves against the dangers of the work will find their teammates doing the same.

#4: Take Calculated Risks–Nothing great was achieved without taking risks. Positive change brings with it uncertainty and possibilities for failure. Wise leaders weigh the evidence to push forward in a measured, courageous fashion. Coates (2012) reminds readers that taking risks actually tells your body, in a biological sense, that you’re entering into a scenario where you’re likely to be threatened in some way. But, great leaders learn to identify the threats that risks pose, including the emotions of euphoria or despair that come from potential profits and perils. By understanding their own responses to risky scenarios, as well as the possible gains or losses that may be the outcomes, leaders learn to calculate risks to courageously move forward through balance and bravery. The more risk that leaders are able to take over time, the more they learn to calculate accurately, cycling them back to the clarity needed to identify the true problems that need to be solved in the first place.

Courageous Leader Model

To develop your own courageous leadership attributes, we pose our two Courageous Leader Challenges:

Challenge One: David Goggins, a retired Navy Seal and endurance athlete, in his raw and unforgiving book, Can’t Hurt Me (2018), discusses the importance in really taking a hard look at our goals and where we are falling short. He describes standing in front of the “accountability mirror” to admit to yourself, without reservation, the critical areas where you need to improve in life and work. The challenge–stand in front of a mirror in your home, talk to yourself about the key areas of your life where you need to be more courageous. Identify one area and take action. Tell us what you learned through reflection and what you did to take action using #CourageousLeaderChallenge on Twitter.

Challenge Two: Bill George, Senior fellow at Harvard Business School, uses the phrase “the courage cohort” (2017) in identifying courageous leaders who took risks and effectively built global companies. The challenge–identify one or two leaders who you want to study and emulate in your own role. Ask yourself what makes them a courageous leader. When a few attributes emerge, try to imitate that behavior in your own life. Tell us what you learned through your studies and what you did to take action using #CourageousLeaderChallenge on Twitter.

Learning to be courageous takes practice, and it’s often the result of the mental clarity in challenging yourself to see where you can fill your leadership gaps and where you can “act” in the ways that the courageous leaders of the past and present inspire us to be more and do better. Being courageous may feel complicated and daunting, but following our Courageous Leadership Model helps to make it simple so that you can be the leader you need to be even when tough times present themselves. All it takes is clarity, small steps, responsibility, and a little risk.

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TheSchoolHouse302 is about getting to simple by maximizing effective research-based strategies that empower individuals to lead better and grow faster.

Joe & T.J.

References

Amabile, T. & Kramer, S. (2011). The power of small wins. Harvard Business Review.

Coates, J. (2012). The hour between dog and wolf: Risk taking, gut feelings, and the biology of boom and bust. New York: The Penguin Press.

George, B. (2017, April, 24). Courage: The defining characteristic of great leaders. Forbes.com.

Girls Who Code (2018). The future is sisterhood. Girls who code annual report 2018.

Goggins, D. (2018). Can’t hurt me. Lioncrest Publishing.

Jast, J. (2016). Laser-sharp focus: A no-fluff guide to improved concentration, maximised productivity and fast-track to success.

Pearse, S. (2017, May, 29). Courage, the most important leadership virtue. Huffpost.

Willink, J. & Babin, L. (2017). Extreme ownership: How U.S. navy seals lead and win. New York: St. Martin’s Press.