#SH302: Goal Setting

#SH302: Goal Setting

Goal Setting

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. ~ Tony Robbins

How serious are you about achieving your goals and living a life of fulfillment? Do you know what you truly want to get out of each day, week, month, and year? Setting goals is a critical first step to uncovering the life you truly want to live. As Thoreau wrote in Walden, “the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” At TheSchoolHouse302 we don’t purport certain achievements, wealth, status, or epic lifestyles. Our desire for ourselves and others is for individuals to be committed to living a life of passion and attaining a desired way of life that individuals want to live and that compliments all of humanity.

To pursue this noble endeavor, we suggest that you revisit and recommit to your personal and professional goals. To do so with the balance necessary to be successful, we first offer TheSchoolHouse302 Blockchain of Life that encompasses areas of your life that should have clarity for goal setting. We first offer this model, prior to discussing goals, because there often exists a huge gap between goal setting and goal getting. At times, people mistake the two and fail to actuate their goals, focusing on starting something new but necessarily the persistence it takes to finish something (Acuff, 2017). This model is designed so that people understand how each area of our life is interconnected as a system. The purpose of the model is to understand the harmony needed within the system and to feel inspired and motivated by its simplicity.

  • Wellness–your fitness, health, energy levels, and overall feeling of wellbeing
  • Spirituality— your faith, religion, self-reflection, and a feeling of connectedness to the world
  • Family–your relatives who you keep closest in heart and mind  
  • Friendships–the people you rely on for social activities, fun, and candid conversations
  • Work–your role in the organization, your impact on the vision, and your financial earnings
  • Growth–your personal and professional development  

TheSchoolHouse302 Blockchain of Life

That brings us to our three very simple strategies to maximize the blockchain to your goals. Once we internalize the blockchain, we can select any given goal that we have in life and use these three very simple but powerful techniques to realize even the most massive accomplishments.

Be Specific.

Deciding to set goals is probably one of the most important decisions you can make, but most people don’t set clear goals in their life. ~ Thibaut Meurisse

Consider you are setting goals within “work” on the blockchain and you are weighing the pros and cons of going back to school to develop additional skills since you think it will lead to higher pay and a possible promotion. The goal of “going back to school” isn’t specific enough, nor is developing some “new skills.” However, identifying precisely what you want to pursue and definitively why you want to pursue it is critical. This is what Napoleon Hill describes as a clear concise mental picture, which provides the needed clarity and purpose for your goal (Hill, 2016). This step is vital because going back to school will require time, energy, money, sacrifice, and commitment. Yes, the higher pay may be something you want, but the goal has to be bigger and worth more than the tradeoff or it will not be worth pursuing and you may even resent the massive commitment it takes for the minimal reward. “Out tendency to rely upon external motivators is ironic considering how ineffective they are” (Meurisse, 2015). Being specific requires you to not only be precise on what you want to achieve, such as a Master’s of Science in Marketing in the case of going back to graduate school, but also specific on a why that goes beyond the extrinsic. The power in specificity comes from within you when you identify the internal reward that you seek, beyond more money, position, and power, to stronger personal autonomy, concept mastery, or purpose in life.

Technical Tip: Developing clear goals is challenging. There are six elements to the blockchain and we suggest you focus on each of them over two months. Three elements the first month (in the first three weeks of the month), with a week of reflection at the end of the month, and then three the next month, again, with a week of reflection. Although this may seem drawn out and you could push this exercise much quicker, we advocate for a slower more thoughtful and reflective process, which is why it takes a considerable amount of time. This methodical process is a play on Benjamin Franklin’s 13 Virtues, which he identified and then focused on only one virtue per week to develop and to improve himself over time.

Find Time.

If one is lucky, a solitary fantasy can totally transform one million realities. ~ Maya Angelou

Have you ever purchased a gym membership to only find that the closest you got to the gym and working out is when you put the gym key tag on your keyring? If going to the gym is an avenue to reach your wellness and fitness goals then you have to deconstruct your day and find opportunities to fit gym time into your schedule. This means evaluating what is occupying your time throughout the day and week to identify gaps that you can maximize. This also requires you to prioritize what is important to you. When we fail to do things, it’s typically because we don’t value them enough. “Many people fail on their professional development goals for the year because they take on a lot of goals–goals that they feel they ‘should’ do but ultimately don’t energize them” (Saunders, 2016). Two major factors in finding time for your goals is to 1. Narrow them down to the goals that are most important to you, and 2. Quit something that you’re currently doing that isn’t aligned to your long-range plan.

Technical Tip: Quit Something. Don’t continue to do the same routine and expect something new or different. If your goal is to read more, then you might need to give up one of your favorite TV programs to do so. As Einstein said, “the definition of insanity is doing something over-and-over again and expecting a different result.” Remember, this is about reaching your goals, whether growing as a leader, living a healthy lifestyle, or being a better parent, you have to look at your actions and ask tough questions like, is this TV program helping me reach my goals? As Dr. Henry Cloud writes in Necessary Endings, we have to approach ourselves and our life like a skilled gardner who knows pruning is the key to sustaining healthy and beautiful roses.

Write It.

Reading maketh a full man; conference a ready man; and writing an exact man. ~ Francis Bacon

Don’t waste time telling everyone about your goals if you don’t have them written down. About 87% of people don’t have clear goals, another 10% can articulate them, and only 3% of people actually write them down. We advocate for a sticky-note in multiple places, like the mirror where you brush your teeth, the horn of your car, your coffee mug in the AM, or your daily planner. Write your goals in places that you will see them often, which is an accountability strategy. If you can’t hold yourself accountable to your own written word, no one can. Not only is writing your goal an accountability measure but it supports the specificity we started with in this model, which completes the cycle of goal setting and allows you to stretch beyond your dreams and into reality. Writing your goals is the first step in making them real–they go from being thoughts to words to actions.

Technical Tip: Use a journal, often, day and night. If you don’t commit to writing your goals, all of your hopes and dreams, your chances of success are very limited. Also, don’t restrict yourself to just words. Use pictures to augment what you write down in your journal to track your progress and ignite the passion and emotion necessary to trigger action. At times, words alone don’t fuel excite the mind the way a great picture can. Utilize photos, and other visuals, to document where you are now and where you are going to chronicle your journey. A well-kept journal is the key to reflection and reflection opens doors that our mind’s eye wouldn’t otherwise have seen.

TheSchoolHouse302 Goal Setting Model

That’s TheSchoolHouse302 model for goal setting. We hope that you use our technical tips in your life and work so that you can lead better and grow faster through stronger goal setting. We contend that if you are specific with your goals, you make time to fit them into your day, and you write them down, you’ll achieve successes greater than ever before. If you want more help with goal setting for the leaders in your organization, don’t hesitate to contact us, we can help.

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TheSchoolHouse302 is about getting to simple by maximizing effective research-based strategies that empower individuals to lead better and grow faster.

Joe & T.J.

References

Acuff, J. (2017). Finish: Give yourself the gift of done. New York: Penguin.

Cloud, H. (2010). Necessary endings: The employees, businesses, and relationships that all of us have to give up in order to move forward. New York: HarperCollins.

Hill, N. (2016). Think and grow rich. OPU.

Meurisse, T. (2015). Goal setting: The ultimate guide to achieving goals that truly excite you.

Saunders, E.G. (2016). Stop setting goals you don’t actually care about. Harvard Business Review.

 

#readthisseries: Organizational Fitness

You can’t miss this #readthisseries for books you need to read to lead better and grow faster in the area of planning and preparation or what we call “organizational fitness.” If you missed our blog post where we introduced the concept of R.E.P.S. for ongoing planning and preparation for improved performance and progress toward goals, you can still find it here. Let us know what you think with a like, comment, or follow.

 

 

Making New Year’s Resolutions in 2017–Jim’s Resolve: 3 Ideas for Success

Making New Year’s Resolutions in 2017–Jim’s Resolve: 3 Ideas for Success

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Making New Year’s Resolutions in 2017

Who doesn’t love a great cup of coffee, a must for many of us in the morning? Not only do I find coffee satisfying and energizing, what I love are the incredible conversations often had over a good cup of Joe. This past New Year’s Day was one such conversation. Amid a great cup of deep dark Arabica coffee, I asked my friend if he had any New Year’s Resolution. Jim acknowledged that he had set some goals and that he was really looking forward to achieving them in 2017. The realistic side of me questioned Jim’s optimism, so I dropped some statistics, like, only 8% of the people who have resolutions actually achieve them (Pruitt, 2015).

Jim wasn’t surprised by my doubt and nodded in agreement. We talked a little about the rich history of New Year’s Resolutions, dating back to Ancient Babylonians, how the Romans used the tradition, and how for thousands of years human beings have desired to do better and be better (Pruitt, 2015). We talked about people’s desire to grow, both personally and professionally, and how difficult it can be to simply be an improved version of our current selves. We both agreed that one challenge is life itself—it gets busy and before we know it, not only are we not on track to reach our goal, we haven’t even thought about our goal in days, if not weeks. So I asked Jim what made him so sure that he would achieve his goals. Here’s what he said:

I’m going to focus, focus, focus on one thing that I truly desire…

Jim’s rationale wasn’t complicated or overly involved, actually it was quite simple.  Don’t focus on goals you are not passionate about. Too often, we set goals that we think we want, or we think are good for us, but they don’t spark excitement or passion. In fact, they feel more like a chore (Grace Saunders, 2017). Jim’s goals were very clear, explicit, and were centered on things he really cared about. Jim acknowledged that this took time and that his resolutions were goals of his that he had been thinking about for some time. Jim revealed that although he was well educated with a bachelor’s degree and extensive professional training, that lacking an MBA created a ceiling that he was quickly approaching. So, his goal, enroll in an MBA program and earn 12 credits towards his masters this year as a part-time student was truly important to him. To ensure success, Jim already talked to his wife and boss to confirm that he would have their support. Knowing Jim’s already hectic schedule, I asked him about the challenges he’ll face particularly around time. He went on…

I need to identify the most effective strategies for my time, which challenge conventional thinking…

One of the biggest misunderstandings about achieving goals is that people think they have to do more. For example, take health and wellness. So many New Year’s Resolutions revolve around losing weight with an increase in exercise (just look at the swell of gym memberships during the new year). Many believe that going to the gym or going to the gym more often, carving out precious time, is actually the answer and the most important aspect of weight loss. However, according to Shawn Talbot, nutritional biochemist and former director of the University of Utah Nutrition Clinic, weight loss is 75% diet and 25% exercise (Masin, 2014). So when we think that in order to lose weight, we actually have to do something like exercise or exercise more, although that’s part of it, what matters more is a focus on our nutrition and caloric intake (Carroll, 2015). If the weight loss split is 75% diet to 25% exercise, then the truth is that 75% of our energy toward the goal should be about eating healthier and eliminating poor habits, with only 25% of our energy focused on exercising. Yes, both are necessary, but one is more important than the other and doesn’t require necessarily more time. Arguably more planning, but not necessarily time. Jim’s approach is powerful because he analyzed the best approach to achieve his goal, despite what he may originally have thought about it. So how will Jim find time for an MBA, one strategy he discusses was “time blocking” (Grace Saunders, 2017). Jim blocked time throughout his work day that he cleared with his boss and time at night he cleared with his wife. Jim knows that without blocking out the time each week for his MBA, he simply won’t succeed.  The activities associated with his resolution are the most likely to help him achieve success. I asked Jim if there was anything else he thought would clear up time and energy to focus on what he wants to make a reality. He knew the answer:

There are things I need to stop doing…

In order to achieve our resolutions, we have to be honest regarding our time, level of commitment, ability, and the amount of goals we want to achieve. Jim said the biggest and most effective change he made in the past to help him reach his goals was evaluating what he need to give up to go up (Maxwell, 1998). He identified what he had to stop doing that was not going to help him achieve his goals. So Jim made a list of all the activities and behaviors that were counterproductive and would derail him. Through some serious introspection and evaluation of his lifestyle, Jim identified some areas of his life that he could improve. He made clear that some of these things he truly enjoyed and were fun, but would need to be tabled for the time being. He indicated that despite his best efforts, managing himself was challenging. That his attitude at times was fickle and his focus suffered, so in 2017, to reach his MBS goal, he would avoid those activities that he knew could lead him off the path to his goals. One example was that although he enjoyed his Monday night bowling league, he wasn’t consistent with his attendance and it was drawing his attention away from bigger more important goals like earning his MBA.

Jim’s Resolve

Making a resolution and having the resolve to achieve it are two different things. In 2017, Jim is going for something he’s passionate about, something that will clearly improve his life. He set specific goals through focus, he understands exactly what he needs to do, which goes against conventional wisdom, and he even plans to set some of his current activities aside for a time to gain momentum in the right direction. We want to know your keys to success, your New Year’s Resolutions, and your commitment to a better you. Please comment below.

TheSchoolHouse302 is about getting to simple and maximizing effective research-based strategies that empower individuals to lead better and grow faster.

Joe and T.J.

References:

Maxwell, J. C. (1998). The 21 irrefutable laws of leadership: follow them and people will follow you. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.

Grace Saunders, E. (2017, January 03). Stop Setting Goals You Don’t Actually Care About. Retrieved January 06, 2017, from https://hbr.org/2016/12/stop-setting-goals-you-dont-actually-care-about

Masin, P. (2014, Exercise Vs. Diet: The Truth About Weight Loss. Retrieved January 06, 2017, from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/30/exercise-vs-diet-for-weight-loss_n_5207271.html

Pruitt, S. (2015, December 30). The History of New Year’s Resolutions. Retrieved January 06, 2017, from http://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions

Carroll, A. E. (2015, June 15). To Lose Weight, Eating Less Is Far More Important Than Exercising More. Retrieved January 06, 2017, from http://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/16/upshot/to-lose-weight-eating-less-is-far-more-important-than-exercising-more.html?_r=0